Monday, September 3, 2018

Stop Taking It Personally and Autism

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Just sharing a little Autism anecdote with perspective. 

JJ was helping with chores outside when he fell off of a retaining wall. (A common symptom of Autism is the inability to multi task and this does include walking, thinking, looking...all at the same time. Don't even ask why many Autistic peeps cannot ride a bike.). 

Knowing just how hemophobic JJ is, I quickly addressed the situation. Letting him know there was hardly any blood, he was helping me so wonderfully and that he certainly could have a sweet once I've cleaned and dressed the injury.

The power of diversion has proven helpful in many situations. 

Once his breathing was stable, tablet was in hand and he was comfortably relaxing on the couch,eyes fixed on his tiny screen, he said with indifference, "Mom, you're not always useless." 

After a few seconds of shock, I realized that this was actually a complement and thought worth sharing. 

So many discrepancies are caused by the inability to communicate in a way which is fully comprehended. So before presuming an assumption be certain that you've received the correct intension either with further thought or by nicely asking if the perceived assumption is indeed true or simply ask for a different explanation.

Communication is very difficult for a lot of people with Autism and when ya think about, it is for most everyone.  Hehehe...We all could start not taking everything people say so personally.  My oldest son often shouts at me.  It's difficult not shouting back and it does upset me.  Sometimes to tears, but when you look at it in it's rawest form, it's just misplaced anger. It certainly isn't right and it's not very nice, but I won't let it bother me.  

I sure as heck will let my son know that I do not appreciate being shouted at and as always will remind him how he reacts when someone shouts at him and how it makes him feel. It is very, very important to let people how their behavior makes your feel, but I recommend doing it nicely.

Thanks for stopping by AuSumness.  Scroll through our other useful entires like this one about thinking outside of the box with your Autistic kids, students or family :

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