Teaching And Autism

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When we're not talking about the awesome side of autism then we're looking for awesome ways to deal with the sometimes difficult symptoms of autism.

Today, we're going to start talking about teaching children with autism and we plan on bringing more and more tips to help teachers do their job to their best ability as well as provide links for further eduction.

Speaking of further education, through my own personal, professional experience.  I probably learned the most about "how" to teach after university, through further education classes whilst being a teacher.  It is crucial that we continue to read and research the best ways to teach our children and students.  It's also very important that we share our findings.  Especially, the ones with positive outcomes.

There are a lot of tools out there and we need to find and disperse them throughout the teaching community and to families where the methods will also work.  Let's start right here, today!

I'm dismayed at how little education college students receive about special needs students.  With the ever increasing rate of children diagnosed with autism and ADHD it should be mandatory that higher education establishments as well as all schools begin giving teachers and future teachers the tools necessary to successfully and professionally educate students with special needs. This is even more crucial when special need students are sitting in regular classes.

Would you give a $50 steak to someone who doesn't even know how to turn on a stove?

I saw a lot of beginning teachers struggle with children who didn't even have special needs or any kind of Individual Education Program.  The school staff should work together to see that all teachers have the basic knowledge of how to teach and how to deal with disruptive and difficult behaviour.  This would result in better performing teachers as well as less interruptions in the class, benefiting the class as well.

Higher education should definitely be in the forefront of equipping their students with the best tools to use in the classrooms or work environments.  How to effectively communicate and deal with difficult or different people.  These institutions should be the leading example.  So much research that is done throughout the world on education is being ignored or dismissed despite the positive outcomes.

Things like uniforms, separating the sexes, free time, meal time, school start time...so many schools are doing it all wrong.  We keep thinking we have to reinvent the wheel rather than look over the fence and see what our neighbours are doing that is working.  

What I'm also finding is that many of these skills will work with ALL people, not just those who fall on the spectrum.  We will all become better equipped to deal with day to day situations by learning how to deal with difficult or different behaviours.

If no one is holding your hand and guiding you, then take the reins and do it yourself!  There is a wealth of information out there.  It's literally right there at our finger tips.  When we find awesome stuff that works, we need to share it.  Share it with your friends and family.  Share it with your colleagues.

Let's make it our goal to educate ourself and those around us.  Let's share information when it's helpful.  Let's look into how our neighbours are doing it and see if it might work for us, too.  Let's show the world, through our example.

We'll be coming back to this subject very often.  Next time, we start sharing tips that work in the class as well as at home.

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Best of luck!

Autism and Gaming

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I've got some pretty awesome information for you today.  I'm giving a couple of tips that have helped this entire family tremendously.  I have touched on it before, but there are a few modifications and considerations that were not in the previous entries.

Check out my chore charts I've designed for both of my boys.  As you can see they are at totally different levels of capability due to their position on the spectrum with my oldest falling higher on the scale and my youngest, much lower even though they are only a year apart.

I know there are a lot of folks out there dealing with all of the gizmos of today.  My hubby included!  Hehehe...We have learned how to "use" their desire to play on these contraptions for all of our benefit.  I found myself, in the beginning, being too easy on my boys when it came to chores.  Then after further thought, knew no one would benefit by me not teaching them how to care for themselves, their pets and their surroundings.

Even though it is extremely difficult and sometimes we try chores that just don't work, we do keep expanding our duties list.  Duties!  Hehehe...We get grumbles.  We get shouted at, but for this, we keep it black and white.  If your chores are not finished, you do NOT play games.  THE END.  You cannot falter with this.  Especially, in the beginning.

Allow me to explain how this might possibly work in your household, too.  When a conversation is started about chores, it is highly possible that the child is not listening to begin with.  There will more than likely be a barrage of complaining and excuses.  Like a machine gun, for sure!  Hehehe...

With a written list of what needs to be, there need be no discussion or even talking for that matter.  In an earlier entry, I mentioned our usage of timers with the boys for playing games.  (They get an hour.)  When we first told them time was up, we'd get bombarded with swearing and attitude.  When the alarm goes off...nothing.  They finish up their level (that one took a while for them to figure out) and put their games in their proper place.  THE END.  We were totally stoked at this very easy solution.

Perhaps like your family member(s), ours don't really like being "told" what to do, but when it's written like my lists here, all I have to do is point or shoot a look in the direction where these hang in the living room.

You may want to experiment with what you put on the list.  I totally recommend starting off WAY small and WAY easy to ease them into the concept.  My kids would freak if there were more than two things on the list.  So, we started with one and it was really easy.  After a few months, you add and or change to more difficult chores depending on your child's capabilities.

Ya just have to give this one a try.  

A couple more things I'd like to throw in here.  Kids really shouldn't be playing games more than an hour a day for health reasons.  A lot of reasons and deep down, we all really know that.  I think one hour is not long at all, but I find one hour at a time ok.  On weekends they get more time, but only ever one hour in one sitting.  We really want them to understand that games are not healthy and are meant to be just fun.  They need to know they don't "need" games, but may enjoy them when they've earned that game time.

Here's another VERY important tip for you.  Keep all electronics out of the bedroom or at least make sure they are turned completely off.  Phones and hand held gadgets should be taken out of the room one hour before bed time and there should be no devices one hour before bed time.  It has to do with the release of serotonin (in the brain) and when the body is preparing to go to sleep.  You may want to try this yourself.  People sleep much better when there are no devices in the room.

I wanted to keep this short!  Hehehe...So much for that, but it is just so, so important and I know many of you are dealing with the gizmos.  Use them to all of your advantage.

Keep it black and white.  The chores are ALL finished, then they may game.  Not finished, no games. This leaves no room for arguing and less headaches.  No games before 8 am.  This way they stay in bed longer and get more sleep.  No games or devices one hour before bedtime.  

When you keep it simple and stick to your guns, there will be no war.  Hehehe...

I designed this chart a while back and you can download it for free by clicking on the image.

If this is the first time you're visiting our blog, you may want to see this helpful chart as well.  We've got a few free printables throughout the blog.

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Bilingual and Autism

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Last week we looked into outside of the box thinking and autism.  Today, I'm briefly discussing being bilingual and being on the ASD spectrum.

Both of my boys took a very long time before they started speaking.  My oldest would at least use words here and there, but my youngest didn't even say ja or nee (Yes or no) mom or dad until he was well over 5 years old.

My boys live in a multi lingual household.  My husband speaks six different languages and we use 5 very often.  Children without autism can sometimes have delayed speech when brought up in a multilingual house.  I thought it could have a lot to do with my youngest's speech delay as well.

If you have a non lingual child, I feel for you.  It is so very difficult communicating with someone who does not respond to you.  My son often does not look at us and he says very, very little.  When he does speak it's often poorly grammatically stated or not even understood at all.  It's often about something of little importance or relevant to the situation...

Two way conversations are extremely limited and rare.  Not knowing what your child is thinking or feeling is scary, sad and frustrating, but don't give up.  I'm going to go further into this subject on a later blog entry.

My youngest uses Dutch the most when speaking and when he does speak English, it's with Dutch grammar and very seldom in complete sentences, but we continue to encourage him and rarely correct his speech because it took him so long to even get started we do not dare to discourage him.  I believe part of what the issue is could be his perfectionism.

I too was afraid to begin speaking Dutch when I first moved to Belgium.  I was so afraid I was going to say it incorrectly.  I used to teach high school and had many students from Mexico.  I also saw their hesitation in wanting to speak English and later figured it out that it wasn't because they didn't know how or want to, but they were apprehensive about speaking without perfection.

This could be the case for some people on the spectrum as well.

Also don't forget, that bilingual or multilingual is double the vocabulary and a whole lot to remember.  So if there is a delay, no worries.

Just keep on speaking normally.  Don't ever give up and certainly try your best not to discourage communication no matter how simple the form may be.  I read a couple of medical articles about being bilingual and autism and each and everyone had the same conclusion and that was, being bilingual and autistic is no different than not being bilingual.  So there's a good thing!

Keep your sentences as short and comprehensive as possible.  Speak without metaphor and sarcasm.  Encourage verbal communication as much as you can.

I hope you found this helpful.  If you'd like to join our group and share your stories, ask questions or just want to be around other parents whose children have Autism feel free.

A Different Way Of Thinking and Autism

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Today, I'm going to show off my other passion, scrapbooking and go into thoughts I've had and discoveries I've made with my boys and their different ways of thinking.  It might help you, too.

At AuSumness, our goal is to try and help those who work with or have family members and or friends with autism.  We are not "professionals" per sae.  I do have a degree in the Social Sciences and over a decade of teaching experience and I have two boys who sit at different levels on the spectrum.  I read like crazy and try to arm myself with the best methods of dealing with the many symptoms of autism.  I want to share my discoveries in hopes of helping others in the same situation.

We want to help people find the awesome in autism and we want to supply you with awesome ways to live with autism.

My husband was just telling me the other day, that we are so bombarded with all of this information, in general and with autism and we're rarely given solutions.  That's why we are here.  Not to just tell you what you probably already know, but to suggest things that might make your life and your loved ones with autism, easier.

Presently, I'm on "vacation" and I've had a bit of a "eureka!" moment.  I've always known that my kids think nothing like we do, which makes everything so much harder.  One line I hear again and again and you probably do too, is "they have to learn".  I'm not sure why this line drives me even more nuts, but I'm sure it stems from the whole different ways of thinking that autistic people do.

Here's the story...

My husband went walking through the mountains with my oldest son, who sits higher on the spectrum.  They've been on this trail before and my hubs wanted to see if my son could get them to their destination without help.  He did ok, but they got to a point where he wasn't sure and my husband told him to look around and see if he recognised something.  His response, "Oh, yeah!  I recognise the moss on that rock."

For most of us, we would notice the larger more noticeable things or perhaps the juxtaposition of the sun in the sky.  For many people with autism, they see the tiny details, while we focus on the larger picture.  As we know, socialisation is a very difficult skill to master for some folks with autism.  We were taught or perhaps it's even inherent that we learn through looking at others, but my boys just don't seem to get this.

I might assume that has everything to do with focusing on "other" things rather than the actual behaviour.  If I say to either of my sons, "Look at that man, there.  How he's doing that."  They might not notice the actual skill I'm wanting them to see and perhaps learn, but that he's missed a hole while lacing his shoe or that he has more eyelashes on one lid than the other.

My husband asked my son if he should leave this night or early in the morning.  I saw the hurt look on my husband's face when my son responded, "tonight".  Then he asked why and my son responded, "Because tonight I can kiss you before you leave and tomorrow I'll still be sleeping and can't kiss you goodbye."  I mean, how sweet is that?  What a different way to think about the situation and how different it is than what "we" might think.

Things are much more difficult with my younger son.  He's not very verbal and his language skills are very, very low so communication is already difficult to begin with.  Couple the difficulties of communication with this other way of thinking and things can get very difficult for "us".

I'm hoping after reading this, you might also have a "eureka!" moment or when you notice odd behaviour or hear something odd or maybe even painful, that you stop and consider that they may be looking at things completely different and they are expecting a completely different reaction from you then what you would consider from their perspective.

Don't be afraid to ask why they thought or said that.  My youngest just hates questions, but we still keep asking.  Try to be as patient and kind as possible.  It will certainly give you better results.  You may also want to consider out side of the box thinking in order to understand your children better.  At the very least, understand that the wiring of their brain is completely different than yours and try your best not to make it personal.

You know the saying, "seeing the wood for the trees".  Consider it when you're having troubling moments and try to see things how they are and how they are for that person.

I'm sure it is equally as frustrating for them as it is for us that we never think like they do.

I hope this was helpful for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Last week, I had a helpful, free printable for you.  It might help with emotional overload and give you guidance to help your friends, family and loved ones with autism or just in general.

Click on the image to get to last week's blog.  If you are interested, you could join our group on Facebook and as always, feel free to leave any helpful links in the comments.

Gift Giving And Autism

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Autism isn't always awesome, but there sure are many attributes that give people with autism something special and unique.  For me, one of the best things about autism is how it makes me look at everything differently.  Certainly, outside of the box thinking is required and I feel like I'm improving a lot as a person because both my boys have autism.

Last week, we got into different ways that friends and family can help us and our kids.  I shared a story about my mother-in-law getting a bit emotional when JJ totally freaked at the money gift he received.  I'm talking full blown melt down.

My mother-in-law took it personal.  You should never take it personal. One of the biggest problems that people with autism have is inappropriate social behaviour.  My children are rarely grateful for the gift they receive despite us teaching them that they should be.  We show them by example continuously and it just doesn't help.  As with so many other things.  If that's something all parents go through, is the constant repetition in the correction of behaviour.  How many of you have to say, "Honey, stay seated while we we're eating"?  Seriously, we've been saying this for over a decade now and at least 5 times for every meal.

All right!  We've said not to take it personal, but that doesn't mean that you have to ignore the behaviour either.  Of course, if you're not going to say something helpful, then ignoring them would be best.  Hehehehe...However, there certainly isn't anything wrong with letting that person know that your feelings are hurt by their reaction.  Just don't expect that you will get an apology.

Remember, some people need TIME to get used to a new gift.  My youngest certainly falls into this category.  He might throw a present and even hide it, but three days later, he goes to bed with it and can't put it down.  JJ needs time to look at it, feel it, even taste it before he can begin to appreciate it.  So please, if you get a negative response when giving a gift, don't take it to heart.  Tomorrow, they just might LOVE it.

I would totally recommend asking that person or the parent what a suitable gift might be.  Especially, if ya think you're going to be upset at a negative reaction.

Last week I suggested that you should consider not making someone else's behaviour all about yourself.  I certainly don't blame the gift giver for my child's reaction to a present.

I've written a blog on giving and going to a special needs party. If you're interested in that, click here.

Hopefully our tips and explanations will help smooth things out and make everyone's life a bit less stressful.

Thanks for stopping by.  If you'd like to join me and some of my other friend's whose children have autism, hit up our group on Facebook.

Best of luck!

Autism And Emotions Printable

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We're back with what we hope is another helpful edition to your arsenal of brilliant ideas on how to deal with symptoms of autism.  Download our free printable and help your friends, family or students when they are having problems with emotion overload.

As many of you know, emotions and social interactions can be very challenging for those with autism.  At times it can be difficult for some to understand and many times we're left shaking our heads, not having an idea what to do with all of this anger, sadness or even happiness.

Take a look at this helpful chart.  Print it out, laminate it and hang it in a place that's easy to access.  Remind the person in need of help of the chart.  Bring it to them, point to it or stand them in front of it.  Whatever method will help best with that particular person.

Right click and save to your downloads.

Right click and save to your downloads.

I've got two different versions for you.  Choose the one you need or take both.

Consider changing the subject and use distraction if none of the above steps work.  That one works wonders for our youngest.  If you can give the person time to vent or cry, than do that, too as long as they are not being destructive.  We spoke about destructive behaviour in a previous blog.

Thanks so much for joining us, today!  We've got a group on Facebook where you can chat with other people who have autistic children.  I've also got a board on Pinterest dedicated to Autism.

Best of luck!

How You Can Help Friends and Family With Autistic or Special Needs Children

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On our road to finding the awesome in Autism, we often come across bumps or even broken bridges. We sometimes meander down dark roads, but it's essential to keep looking for the light.  We hope, through our entries on this blog to give encouragement, help and to let you know, you are not alone.

Last week, we talked about the destructive side of autism.  Today, we're looking at ways that friends and family can help us with our autistic children.

Acceptance:  For us, things started getting a lot better when people started accepting that our children have Autism.  We were continuously accused, by those we loved, that we were spoiling our children or not feeding them properly or they were not getting enough sleep or the worst, "they just HAVE to learn".

Especially, when a diagnosis has been given, it's time to take off the gloves and jump in and help.  Having children with special needs is incredibly taxing.  Mentally, physically and emotionally draining to the point where the parents or caregivers can become sick themselves.

Sympathy:  It's always nice to hear, "I can't even imagine what it would be like" or "It must be very difficult".  This is so much better than, suck it up, life goes on or everyone's got it rough..."  The chances are, those parents are hearing that from most other people anyway, so let's mix it up.  It's often relieving to hear these things.  The other things just infuriate or exasperate already spent emotions.

Don't take it personally:  This is a big one and I'll try my best to explain.  Often, autistic people can say things that might hurt your feelings or act in a way that makes YOU feel uncomfortable.  Never do this.  Do not let it get to you.  It's not an excuse and there certainly isn't anything wrong letting that person know, that you feel sad, unloved or embarrassed, but do not expect them to understand.

For example, I thought my mother-in-law might cry when my son got very upset at her choice of gifts.  For one, I told her I'd be happy to buy things I know he likes and she could reimburse me.  I've reminded her that money gifts are not well accepted and that most of the time, the boys need TIME to get to know their gifts before they start liking them.  Which brings us to the next tip.

Listen:  Listening is something we can all do better.  Take notes if you have to.  If you are going to ask about things you can do to help, make sure you listen to what they say.  When your friends are venting, zone in on things that really bother them and see if there might be a way to step in.  Sometimes just listening silently is helpful.

Ignore unpleasant behaviour:  If only most people would do this.  Look at the bigger picture.  How are evil stares or even complaints, going to change anything?  Just focus on the parents and give them your attention, not the child's.  Ignoring ill behaviour can even be advantageous at times.

Patience:  It is very, very difficult for some parents of autistic children to give you, their full attention.  It might not even be safe to do that.  Try your best not to think of yourself if you find you're in a position like this.  I know many friends and family cannot stand the constant interruption of my kids or me having to stop conversation to address a problem.  It bothers us, too.  It bothers us that we can't sit and speak for even just a couple of minutes without interruption and it also bothers us that our friends and family get upset when this happens.

Offer to babysit:  I realise, that this one is a doozy.  For many parents and caretakers of those with special needs a babysitter is not even an option!  For years my husband and I couldn't go out or rather, get away from all of the chaos, sadness and uncertainty.  Not even for a few hours.  There are very few people out there wanting to fill our shoes and have these kids for a couple of hours.  I totally get it.  If it is something that you absolutely could never dream of, then don't offer.

Include:  Another thing one might not consider that parents and caregivers of special needs kids go through is inclusion.  My high functioning son gets to do a lot of outside activities.  He goes to parties, stays the night with friends and does sports, but my youngest has NEVER slept at a friend's house and when my older son's friends come to play JJ is often not included in their games.  There are very little groups or extra curricular activities for special needs kids.  If there is ever an opportunity for you to include that person, then it would certainly be appreciated.  It would be an excellent learning experience for that person and it would be one fine example to others.

So many times, people assume that the autistic person is not listening or realise what's going on around them, but it is more than likely that they are.  Many autistic people do not look into your eyes or at you or do anything for you to know that they are paying attention and or following the conversation.  Do not act as if they are not there.  It's insulting and it hurts which is how you might also feel by their lack of interaction with you.  Talking about them, with them right there, in a negative way is a big time no, no.

Try your best not to take it personal.  Try to not make it all about you.

No pity party, please:  When I asked around to other friends who have special needs children, they were pretty passionate about their kid's uniqueness and do not consider it in any way shape or form as something negative.  Though, I do not feel the same, I can see why some might look at it like this.  Some folks feel like they were chosen to have children like this.  Can't say I agree with that either, but we all look at things differently and it is something to consider when approaching people about the issue.

I hope these tips have been helpful.  If you have anything helpful to add, join our group on Facebook or leave something positive in the comments.

Best of luck!

The Destructive Side of Autism

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We're looking into the destructiveness that can often be a symptom on the ASD scale.  We'll share some of our stories and things that have worked to eliminate some of this behaviour.

The images I've provided is not even a tip of the iceberg when it comes to the destruction of this place.  Our couches sway in the middle from the unending jumping up and down.  The leather has been used in place of art paper several times.  I hang a large, dark blanket over it and I refuse to buy new ones until this stage is over.  (Still waiting...)

We have replaced FIVE beds also from excessive jumping.  They either don't make things like they used to or we've got a real problem here.

If any kinds of tools are left around, they will be gladly and vigorously used as destructive weapons.  Even toy tools!  Shortly after painting my son's room for the third time in 2 years, he used a wooden, toy hammer on the freshly painted walls.  My, when you leave your child unattended for just a few shorts minutes?!  You want to give them freedom and need to leave them alone at times, but these are the things that can happen.

Our hamster was even stepped on and killed!  He laughed like crazy while I cried and was so upset.  I kept thinking, "I'm raising a monster!" You talk about a warning sign!  I suppose that is another entry, entirely.

We live in Europe and over here, the walls are very NOT perfect and therefore, wall paper is the usual wall covering.  As you can see by some of my images here, wall paper and my autistic children do not combine well.

Writing on on my $50 a roll wall paper was a very common occurrence, for years.  We purchased an older house that needed restoration and slowly we made it to the bathroom.  We put so much love and care into this very used room and after two weeks, the walls were scribbled on.  I read and read, trying to find a way to get rid of this scribble and nothing worked.  Finally, after years of the sun shining through the window (maybe would not have taken that long if we had more sun.  Hehehe...) it's finally nearly faded. Of course, 10 years later, the entire bathroom needs re-doing!  Ugh!

I just leave this stuff for the most part.  I refuse to keep re purchasing all of these materials and re doing all of this work.

Another huge decorating mistake I made was this wall paper with a motif.  Both of my boys just love to pick at it.  Well, they used to.

This must have been the 6th time I've replaced and re wall papered the hall only to have the paper picked at just a couple of days later.  You can punish all you like.  You can beg for them not to do this, but it still goes on.

At least I found a cheap, fast and easy solution for wall paper glue.  Just take any kind of powder starch and mix it with a bit of water, stir and apply to your paper.  I have a tiny brush I use for quick fixes.

Here is an excellent fix to the peeling of wall paper.  It's fibreglass wall covering that you paint over.  It covers the imperfections in the wall, including hammer indentations, is fire retardant and can be painted over again and again for scribbles.  It's absolutely ideal for in our house.

I'm slowly going back around the house and using this fibreglass paper in every room.

Our youngest has Pica which is yet another symptom on the ASD scale.  It's when non food items are consumed.  JJ just loves squishy, soft foamy things to chew on and I have had to replace our bathroom squeegee half a dozen times before I started putting it out of eye and hands reach for him.

You can see the bite marks and the little pieces that were chewed off.  It's much better than the rusty nails and rocks that he used to chew and consume.

What works best for this kind of behaviour, that we have found, is relentless watching, reprimanding and even more effective, nipping it in the bud!  We often have to be very specific as to why this kind of behaviour is not tolerated nor healthy!  Let them know they can get sick or remind them of the times that they were in fact sick from consuming something inedible.

Another helpful trick is make them clean it up or fix it.  Of course, my kids are not at a stage where this is possible, but I sure do try and sit back and watch them try.  Then I make them sit on their butts and see how I fix it and they have to stay seated there until I'm finished so they see how long it takes and the kind of work it takes.  I told them, I'm taking money from their piggy bank the next time I have to buy wall paper.  Hehehe...

I still can't keep my youngest from jumping very energetically on his bed or the couch no matter what we try.  I've told gruesome stories of blood and carnage from accidents of people jumping on furniture and that doesn't help either.  Hehehe...I suppose it's this inability to not give into urges even when they know it is wrong.

I thought having swings inside and letting them ride their scooters inside might help with other physical destruction, but to no avail.  Getting them out swimming all morning, going hiking and many other activities still does not curb this urge, which more than likely comes from stress and or over stimulation.

Of course self destructive behaviour is also an occurrence and I cannot honestly say that my children never hit, punch, push or hurt each other either.

Consider these things:

*be vigilant whenever possible

*keep them busy

*start correcting immediately

*the sooner the better

*get help

*become aware of anger cues

*help with methods to calm down

*use positive reinforcement where you can

*anticipate and avoid triggers for destructive behaviour

*problem solve with them

*consider meds, but understand they are not cured, the meds simply "hide" the problem

I found this article to have a lot of useful information for steps parents can take to help with destruction.

Destruction is serious.  It can lead to future problems and it needs to be addressed as soon as possible.

I hope this entry has been helpful for you.  If you know of any excellent resources on this subject, leave a link in the comments.

Best of luck!

Big Kid Little Kid Problems and Autism

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Every day we are looking for the awesome in autism, but let's face it.  It isn't always awesome.  When we do find things that work or read something that might help, we share it here.  Sometimes we just may vent, but everyone needs that at times, too.

Our last few entries looked specifically at food, the environment and other possible factors that might contribute to the symptoms of autism.  We gave several suggestions to try out and see if they don't help reduce the many symptoms of autism.

Today, we looking at socialisation, again.  As many of you may know, socialising can be very difficult for those on the spectrum and their friends and family.

I may have mentioned before, that when you have a child that appears physically normal most people falsely assume that they are in fact, typical, normally functioning children.  We certainly know what it's like to get the evil stares and accusations of being bad parents for our children's unusual behaviour.

Something with us that has started with our youngest son, is his age versus his mental intelligence for his age.  He's 10, but acts like a 5 year old.  I recently asked myself, does it make sense to speak to him and treat him like a 10 year old, if perhaps he doesn't have the mental capacity to understand me?

I must speak in short sentences and as direct and clearly as possible.  Forget metaphors or sarcasm.

He loves playing with toys for little kids.  He likes clothing for little kids.  He still can't swim and is much more comfortable splashing around in the baby pool, but according to the rules, he's not supposed to be in there.  This morning he told me he doesn't like free time any more because he is no longer allowed to play on the little kids playground.

I've watched him carefully and he does not harm or make fun of the little kids, so for me, it's fine.  I can't expect him to act like a 10 year old.  It's not always easy ignoring the glares, but it's just about all you can do until you are approached.  For so many folks, having autism is an excuse.  That's only because they have never lived with it and as we may want and expect compassion, we must also do the same.  We have to be patient with others and provide the best example we can for our friends and family.

We also need to be an advocate!  We need to continuously point out our issues and ask for help when necessary.  When I explain about autism at the pool, most of the workers there are cool about it and let him play.  I'll certainly ask at school what the deal is.  I'd hate to think that at a special school, age would be a determining factor.  Ugh!

I'm on the hunt for companies that provide big sizes and kid like items for older people.  Things like clothes that are fun, cotton, obviously inside out or backwards and easy to get on and off would certainly be helpful in our household.  Some kind of bike or ride along system would be great, too. I've left some links I've found, but still haven't found just the right thing.

If you know of any sites that offer things like this, leave the link in the comments and we'll be sure to share them around.

Here are some things I found that may help you.

http://www.happyfaceapparel.org/hfa/products-page/

http://adaptiveclothingshowroom.com/childrens-adaptive-clothing/

https://www.etsy.com/market/special_needs

http://www.bikemania.biz/adult-trikes-teen-trikes/special-needs-tricycles.html

http://buddybike.com/Stories/BuddyBikeStory-TerryLuke.html

https://tadpoleadaptive.com/adaptive-bikes-1.html

Best of luck!

Our Environment And Autism

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For the past couple of weeks we've been looking into possible diet ideas that might reduce the symptoms of autism.  We looked a bit in depth into the gluten free and casein free diet and looked at measures that pregnant women can take to possibly reduce the chance of having a child with autism.

I just read today, in regards to the gluten free diet, that health factors may not be completely attributed to gluten, but perhaps, the over processed version of grains that we are consuming.  I thought I'd dive just a bit into our environment.  I have mentioned my ideas about autism and environment and would like to draw them out a bit.

You'll see all kinds of different statistics when it comes to autism and genetics.  You may be in my position, asking yourself, how can it be genetics when no one else in our family has any kind of cognitive issues.  Putting the finger on the environment certainly makes sense to me.  Just look in your very own house for damaging products, foods, cleaners, clothes, flea repellents...how much of what is in your very own house is all natural?  How can all of these chemicals NOT have an affect on our health?

Our environment is in quite a state and we are the products of that environment.  Of course we are going to have health issues that reflect that.

GMO foods, agrochemicals, food additives, processed foods and many other daily items ruin our gut flora.  To understand why this is so important, look back at this blog where I explain it in detail.  Nutritional deficiencies can also lead to physical and psychological problems.

The quality of food we are consuming has to come into question.  Have you looked at the ingredients carefully before buying?  Can you even pronounce half of them?  I always thought I understood what eating healthy was, but not until I actually started reading more into it.

Today's foods are not like the food from even one hundred years ago.  Our food is losing its nutritional value more and more due to over production on the same soil and of course, all of the chemicals we are using on them.  When we purchase foods from other countries, that also has an effect on our body.  It's ideal to eat food from your own region for optimisation.  It's also ideal to eat what's in season.  You can see, just how difficult it is to eat like this.

Looking back at environment, let's look briefly at electromagnetic radiation.  This comes from cell towers, cell phones, WiFi...and this radiation hinders detoxification.  So if you are surrounded with electromagnetic radiation at work and at home, you'll certainly have toxicity issues which can also prevent normal brain function amongst other illnesses.

In a nutshell, here's what ya need to start doing:

-  ditch the sugar (do it gradually if you like, but do it)

-  consider the chemicals you are using in your home and look for natural alternatives

-  reduce or remove electromagnetic radiation from your surroundings (especially where you sleep)

-  check for food allergies and remove certain products like gluten and dairy to see if there is health    improvements

-  purchase whole, quality, fresh food  (consider organic, locally grown, seasonal food)

- omit processed and over processed foods from your diet

I suggest going slow and step by step.  Read, read, read.  There is a ton of information out there. If you have been eating processed, non fresh, restaurant food because it's easy, then you're not reading enough.  There are a lot of recipes out there that are 100% fresh and made in minutes.  You just have to learn how to eat right and it isn't easy.

I'm leaving you with some links to help address the above checks.

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2010/04/20/sugar-dangers.aspx

http://www.prevention.com/health/healthy-living/top-12-endocrine-disrupting-chemicals-in-your-home

http://www.livingthenourishedlife.com/sources-emfs-home/

https://authoritynutrition.com/9-ways-that-processed-foods-are-killing-people/

http://www.prevention.com/food/healthy-eating-tips/top-reasons-choose-organic-foods

https://www.pinterest.com/explore/whole-food-recipes/  

I just love Pinterest for recipes.  My board is also full of whole food recipes.  Eating healthy is just a matter of habit as well as knowing what really is best for us.

I wish you the best!

UPDATE:

Electromagnetic radiation affects people with Autism even more than others. Do your research to learn more. Even the NIH has some interesting reading on Autism and EMF.

We've been eating whole foods, organic food and growing and sharing home grown food for many years now because the results were astounding. Perhaps on a side note though certainly noteworthy, none of us has exposed ourselves to any kind of ... prickly medical interventions for years either. (Insert cheeky emoji of your choice.)

Many people even claim our children, "don't have Autism". We've managed to minimalize most of their symptoms, but we've still got a long way to go.